gollum

"Sharing is caring" we preach to children from small ages onwards. If we don't want to share our cookies, shovels or toys our parents, grandparents, or really just any parent in the room is bound to refer to that old saying. When it comes to shovels I completely agree; in regard to cookies I even love sharing, especially if I made them myself, as it shows that I baked well; however when it comes to shopping at sales, I turn into a hunched-over, gollumesque, mad-eyed creature; snatching everything in my size and in sizes +/- 1 just in case, with only one thought on my mind, "MINE!"

I'd share chocolate.. but not shoes

I like to share, really, I do. And generally I think I'm a fairly generous person. But honestly if your anything but selfish at sales your Jesus or something. I mean, clothes, jewelry, shoes and accesories for less? and your giving it away? I always have to convince myself to still give presents away I bought in sale. My mother is very similar and has even been driving me crazy, by presenting new items (really anything from pillows to jackets and books) which she bought on sale. She is the kind of person who will soon be running from bankers because her credit card is probably already ashes. But, I guess sales bring out the worst in us. In me it's my little gollum being (which may also come out if I've had too little sleep or no food..) For my mom, it's forgetting we have enough stuff, for my friends its buying too much... 

Oh well, it's not always sale in my city.... But what were planes made for? ;)

Still loving fashion,

<3

true friends, true you

I love those friends which whom you can laugh about stupid things sober. Those who will be there with you, in bed, on a saturday night, eating ice-cream, drinking tea and gossip and trash god knows what. Those who will laugh about your embaressing moments, with you and not at you. Those who will be there in moments where you need someone to be sad with you, and not be a stupid optimist looking at the brght side of your boyfriend cheating on you. With those friends, it is so much easier to figure out who you are and what you want. You start to feel more comfortable in your own skin; because you know there are people who love you just the way you are. And you begin sharing things easily, which you might never have told otherwise. I, for example, have always felt akward about my insomnia, as I always thought people would look at me strangely; and only tonight did I notice how easy it was for me to mention it, listing it like any other thing, because I felt comfortable and happy. True friends are those whose annoying mannerisms you know, fight with and still cuddle in the knowledge that you couldnt live without them. Or at least not as happily as you are now.

I know many people who habitually deny they have "best friends" takling about a stupid classification system of ranking your friends; but in reality they're just afrais to give someone the ability to hurt them, to let them know they're important. But if you can't do that, if you're so incapable of trusting, how can you trust yourself?

I guess new years has got me feeling sentimental, but why do we waste so much time being angry and criticizing, when there is so much fun we could have? To all those who have made their new years resolutions, don't forget to add spending time with your friends and time in which you appreciate what you have, focussing on the good instead of the bad and letting friends in when you're feeling low, because there's always that one friends who knows what to do. And if you let them in, you will let yourself be, be the best you can be, dream big and live great.

Still loving fashion,
<3

Dresscodes

Dresscodes. I mean who invented them? Instead of helping us, which some myth claims is what they're there for, they confuse us to a state of chaos. Take my news years eve invitation for example. Dresscode: jacket. Really? Jacket. And I mean that's basically for the men, but even for them. Do they mean tie jacket? Sports Jacket? Leisure jacket or even suit jacket? And then how are women suppossed to apply that to themselves?! Oh he's wearing a suit makes sense I'll just go to my closet section of suit and pull something out... NO! Men do you EVER think for a tiny moment in what kind of chaos you throw us when writing dresscodes. And I'm assuming it's men because any woman writing a dresscode "jacket" should have to suffer under one of Karl's rants. I mean is a long dress too formal? But what if it's really a mini-dress with a long seethrough skirt over..? Does that still count as long? And what kind of shoes? Elegant or party? Black or color? Sparkling or not? Pants even? 

Dress codes make life harder; because they make the already demanding process of picking out what to wear almost impossible, because you're trying to figure out what that person would like you to wear and then also combine it with what you really want to wear, which let's face it, is impossible in the world of fashion. 
Therefore I tend to ignore dresscodes which has, I admit, caused the one or other akward situation (although I wasn't the one embarassed, it was my date, friend or family). But really, isn't dresscode just something we slap on the invite to make it look formal? I mean doesn't it sound so sophisticated when you call out "and remeber the sports/elegant dresscode!"Because while you're thinking pastel twin set with mid-high heels, she's thinking Jeans and the latest nikes and costume jewlerry and the man is already groaning inwardly knowing they'll be late and all the good food will be gone.

So forget dresscodes, you'll never dress like someone expects you to and that's good! Only you know what you'll feel comfotable in, and if you're coming by car you can always keep a extra outfit (or two) in the trunk ;)

Still loving fashion
<3

what to do when you don't know what to shop

Guys? Guess what? It's almost christmas! I know, Shocker there. I'm sure you've barely even noticed with the minimal decorations, imperceptible red and green lights and slight cookie scent. And weil I'm sure we are all very aware of the Hearing christmas, I'm 90% sure no one has really gotten around to getting presents yet, me included, as that is usually the hardest part. What to get, if you're broke, your receivers are seemingly unintrested in ANYTHING but a ferrari or gold rolex, or she/he never actually wears the things you thoughfully spent ages picking out (and taking ages to convince yourself not to keep it, that she will let you borrow it). I have a family made up like this and every year I try new things, homemade, funny, pretty... Nothing. I don't think I've actually ever seen either of my parents use any of their gifts, well except for my das wearing the shirt I got him as a PJ... if that counts. 

My friends however are great and always tell me what great gifts I get so I thought I'd share a few ideas:

1. underwear, pretty underwear and in the right size, always go for smaller if you're not sure, they'll be flattered and you can never have too much underwear
2. a subscription for their favorite newspaper or magazine, the french Vogue is ridiculously cheap in comparision to the US or British version and let's face it, we only look at the pictures anyway
3. a cool phone,laptop or ipad case, we are always breaking ours anyway and a funny new case is the best to put a smile on our face
4. matching hat and gloves, or matching ring and necklace, pick something funny like the moustache trend it's cute and bound to be worn
5. a cute cup with something on it that reminds you of them, NOT a cheesy picture cup, those are going to be "accidentally" dropped
6. wine, good liqour with christmas taste, no one (well almost no one) is going to say no to a good bailey's or gingerbread liquor

There we go I hope these suggestions helped. I'm going to fully target christmas shopping in Paris next week, since wine just seems so much better if you bought it in France: I know we are so godamm superficial.

Still loving fashion,

<3

P.S. Obviously if your friends a fashionista too, clothes, shoes and bags are the best... I don't have to mention that?!

sweetest thing

Until now I've walked through life, thinking people don't really realize what I do and wear that much. That they might find it weird, or trash and laugh about my clothes. So yesterday I had the sweetest experience. I sat down at a party with a boy I had gone to school with and he, he did have a little alcohol to losen his mouth, blurted out how he thought I was so great and how he had been afraid to talk to me all this time. How he loved what I wore and walked with such positive confidence. I was honestly so suprised! And even more baffled when he suddenly started describing one of my favorite Outfits, telling me how he especially loved that one! I couldn't believe people actually watched me that closesly and liked what I was wearing. Especially guys!

we all have our fashion fails

you are beautiful when you are happy

Apart from the fact that I yet again experienced how ridiculously insecure boys can be and had a wonderful Ego kick, I actually learned something really important : People are NOT what they seem. At least most of the time. I mean this boy and his friends had at times been horrible to me, laughing behind my back, making me feel very uncomfortable. The girls to would make snippy remarks about me looking slutty or being a "wannabe" and in real life it had been admiration and jealousy. Why do people do that? Make other people feel bad, or be to weak to admit they were simply jealous? I don't know why. I don't unterstand why so much hatred and bashing is encouraged in magazines, why we are constantly made to feel bad about ourselves. All I know is that to keep doing what you're doing and that all that hate may just be jealousy or misplaced anger. Don't ever be discouraged of your fashion ideale, we all have our fashions sins and fails, but hat's what life's about! Who knows maybe one day a sweet thing will open your eyes too, although I hope you won't need one to actually have to 

Still loving fashion,
<3

P.S. little encouraging statistic I found ;)

"1. At least 5 people in this world love you so much they would die for you. 

2. At least 15 people in this world love you in some way.

3. The only reason anyone would ever hate you is because they want to be just like you.

4. A smile from you can bring happiness to anyone, even if they don't like you.

5. Every night, SOMEONE thinks about you before they go to sleep."

we are all unique

Suppression

I recently came across a few das from the middle east and was seriously shocked. I couldn't believe how extreme they were! Body parts were censored, covered and photshopped. It was almost like entire parts of women were deleted. But on second hand I paused to think, isn't it a good idea to not focus on the outer aspects of a person? To actually care about their beliefs, dreams and characteristics?  Why is everything always about the outer circumstances and don't really the sexist das supress women more? Marginalizing them to their sex? I came to the conclusion that  both extremes of hiding and hsowing skin is suppression. We should be allowed to choose what to wear and not made to feel ashamed or embrassed. We should embrace what we have and by Dressing and changing our body we can come closer to our own personal ideals.

Through the ads I also realized how many ways their are of expressing yourself, your sexuality. Your eyes are seen as extremely powerful, your walk, which I always envy the african and brazilians for... They walk with so much energy and hip sway, so much spirit. Also through our voice, tone and gestures. There are so many little things and every time I come across a new way to express myself, I feel more color, tone and feeling is added to our world. The little ways other people give away parts of their personality, it's amazing once you see it. Take a look, you'll be suprised

Still loving fashion,
<3

Today

It should be prescribed for people to go to concerts once a month

No words needed...

Live today.. sounds corny but it's so true. You can make every day your best. Honestly I just again realized how you can change who you are every day and it's so wonderful. I mean think about it; you are one person on a planet and really no one is going to give if you go crazy. Get a new haircut, spend more money than you should on a gorgeous dress, get drunk and dance your feet sore, fall in love, eat ice-cream at midnight, change your look... There are so many possibilities to have fun, so what are we even afraid of? I just decided to change my eye color and have since been running around with colored contacts which are pretty danm awesome! Everyone is commenting them, even at night in the dark "Whoa you have gorgeous eyes!" And here's the ironic thing people keep coming up to me saying, "Wow I never realized your eyes are so blue." Sure those aren't my closest friends, but it just shows how no one really pays that close attention. Which means we have all the freedom to look like we want! I just feel that being the same person gets to be so boring and I don't want to end with a closet full of boring, concealing and "appropriate" clothes, selling my heels on ebay and prada, MiuMiu and Pepe to vintage stores because I'm afraid my kids will spill stuff on the clothes. 

Never going to dress the norm

While there are things which look unappropriate you should never dress antagonistic towards your gut feeling. You are the only person who can change the way you feel. You can't rely on others to make you feel beautiful, happy or different. Do it yourself! It's not that hard. It's all a matter of attitude and clothes. Live brighter even if the winters coming. Don't forget who you are, the real you would be missed

Still loving fashion,
<3